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Originally Posted by Shaitaan:
Originally Posted by Stormborn:

Alunitic alas is not alone in that crowd of people who are simply jackasses for the sake of being jackasses.

 

My mother died yesterday...well not the one that give me life...but the one one whose knees I learnt what it is to be alive and how to breathe. Indeed she was my north star and today I feel very alone and do not know how I can tack my sail to the right direction in the pending storm. Seems an unimportant thing given education, success and confidence in ones intellect fosters the hubris of pride and arrogance until this little thing somewhere centering the psyche is pulled. Yes I am pathetic enough to say...I feel abysmally lost today knowing she is no longer in the world.

 

But what have I spent my morning doing except writing here to ease my mind on something else? As absurd as it is I spent it fielding calls ( until I stopped answering) from my multitude of coolie family that they do not want a black priest put their sainted matriarch into the ground! He was her priest so that is who will bury her per my wishes.

 

My Dear Friend,

 

I don't want to say something cliche to you. I don't want to tell you that it'll be alright. I don't know that. I don't know if she's in a better place. However, I grieve with you as I have tasted of that pain in the greatest measure that my mind can truly fathom. I shared/share your sentiments when I lost my maternal grandmother (who for all intents and purposes was my mother) in 2004. I grieved for years and I still do for her. It's been 11 years and not a day goes by that she does not cross my mind. I still to this day call my own biological mother who I see everyday by her first name because my motherly connection was made with our deceased matriarch. You're not pathetic. You're profoundly human and profoundly mortal and you're aware of that today in the fullest way we can be aware of these things.

 

I feel your pain and loss enough to know that I don't truly feel it as you do.

 

Your Friend,

 

Farouk

 

FM

Kindly accept my sincerest condolences on the loss of your mother.  As one who lost his own mother not very long ago, I understand your pain.  My mother lived to a ripe old age and we all thought that we were quite prepared for her demise.  When the sad day arrived we all realised that one can never be truly prepared for such an eventuality.  I still think of her every day.  May she rest in peace and may you and the family have the strength and forbearance to continue without her.

FM

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