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Get into the minds of the Mighty Rich and Successful, you might also become successful too. Episode One is all that you need to watch.
Please stop whinging and complaining. Netflix has the medicine.
It's adharmic and contrary to Krishna's teachings.
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Yuji bai. Abee nah devil worshipers so abee nah interested. 
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Behavioral scientists have spent a lot of time studying what makes us happy (and what doesnât). We know happiness can predict health and longevity, and happiness scales can be used to measure social progress and the success of public policies. But happiness isnât something that just happens to you. Everyone has the power to make small changes in our behavior, our surroundings and our relationships that can help set us on course for a happier life
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Happiness often comes from within. Learn how to tame negative thoughts and approach every day with optimism.
CONQUER NEGATIVE THINKING
All humans have a tendency to be a bit more like Eeyore than Tigger, to ruminate more on bad experiences than positive ones. Itâs an evolutionary adaptation â over-learning from the dangerous or hurtful situations we encounter through life (bullying, trauma, betrayal) helps us avoid them in the future and react quickly in a crisis.
But that means you have to work a little harder to train your brain to conquer negative thoughts. Hereâs how:
Donât try to stop negative thoughts. Telling yourself âI have to stop thinking about this,â only makes you think about it more. Instead, own your worries. When you are in a negative cycle, acknowledge it. âIâm worrying about money.â âIâm obsessing about problems at work.â
Treat yourself like a friend. When you are feeling negative about yourself, ask yourself what advice would you give a friend who was down on herself. Now try to apply that advice to you.
Challenge your negative thoughts. Socratic questioning is the process of challenging and changing irrational thoughts. Studies show that this method can reduce depression symptoms. The goal is to get you from a negative mindset (âIâm a failure.â) to a more positive one (âIâve had a lot of success in my career. This is just one setback that doesnât reflect on me. I can learn from it and be better.â) Here are some examples of questions you can ask yourself to challenge negative thinking.
First, write down your negative thought, such as âIâm having problems at work and am questioning my abilities.â
- Then ask yourself: âWhat is the evidence for this thought?â
- âAm I basing this on facts? Or feelings?â
- âCould I be misinterpreting the situation?â
- âHow might other people view the situation differently?
- âHow might I view this situation if it happened to someone else?â
The bottom line: Negative thinking happens to all of us, but if we recognize it and challenge that thinking, we are taking a big step toward a happier life.
CONTROLLED BREATHING
Science is just beginning to provide evidence that the benefits of this ancient practice are real. Studies have found, for example, that breathing practices can help reduce symptoms associated with anxiety, insomnia, post-traumatic stress disorder, depression and attention deficit disorder. For centuries yogis have used breath control, or pranayama, to promote concentration and improve vitality. Buddha advocated breath-meditation as a way to reach enlightenment.
REWRITE YOUR STORY
Writing about oneself and personal experiences â and then rewriting your story â can lead to behavioral changes and improve happiness. (We already know that expressive writing can improve mood disorders and help reduce symptoms among cancer patients, among other health benefits.)
Some research suggests that writing in a personal journal for 15 minutes a day can lead to a boost in overall happiness and well-being, in part because it allows us to express our emotions, be mindful of our circumstances and resolve inner conflicts. Or you can take the next step and focus on one particular challenge you face, and write and rewrite that story.
We all have a personal narrative that shapes our view of the world and ourselves. But sometimes our inner voice doesnât get it right. By writing and then editing our own stories, we can change our perceptions of ourselves and identify obstacles that stand in the way of our personal well-being. The process is similar to Socratic questioning (referenced above). Hereâs a writing exercise:
- Write a brief story about your struggle. Iâm having money problems. I am having a hard time making friends in a new city. Iâm never going to find love. Iâm fighting with my spouse.
- Now write a new story from the viewpoint of a neutral observer, or with the kind of encouragement youâd give a friend.
- Money is a challenge but you can take steps to get yourself into financial shape.
- Everyone struggles in their first year in a new city. Give it some time. Join some groups.
- Donât focus on finding love. Focus on meeting new people and having fun. The rest will follow.
- Couples argue. Hereâs what your situation looks like to a neutral observer.
Numerous studies show that writing and rewriting your story can move you out of your negative mindset and into a more positive view of life. âThe idea here is getting people to come to terms with who they are, where they want to go,â said James Pennebaker, a psychology professor at the University of Texas who has pioneered much of the research on expressive writing. âI think of expressive writing as a life course correction.â
GET MOVING
When people get up and move, even a little, they tend to be happier than when they are still. A study that tracked the movement and moods of cellphone users found that people reported the most happiness if they had been moving in the past 15 minutes than when they had been sitting or lying down. Most of the time it wasnât rigorous activity but just gentle walking that left them in a good mood. Of course, we donât know if moving makes you happy or if happy people just move more, but we do know that more activity goes hand-in-hand with better health and greater happiness.
PRACTICE OPTIMISM
Optimism is part genetic, part learned. Even if you were born into a family of gloomy Guses, you can still find your inner ray of sunshine. Optimism doesnât mean ignoring the reality of a dire situation. After a job loss, for instance, many people may feel defeated and think, âIâll never recover from this.â An optimist would acknowledge the challenge in a more hopeful way, saying, âThis is going to be difficult, but itâs a chance to rethink my life goals and find work that truly makes me happy.â
And thinking positive thoughts and surrounding yourself with positive people really does help. Optimism, like pessimism, can be infectious. So make a point to hang out with optimistic people.
The Benefits of Controlled Breathing
Controlled breathing, an ancient practice, can reduce stress and soothe your body.
Constant negativity can get in the way of happiness, but with practice, you can learn to disrupt and tame negative cycles.
Learn to disrupt and tame constant negativity.
BY LESLEY ALDERMAN
How Honesty Could Make You Happier
An honesty journal can teach you a lot about living a better life.
Get Up and Move. It May Make You Happier.
Even a gentle walk can lift your mood and improve life satisfaction.
Former Member
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So how do you define happiness or what is happiness?
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Mitwah posted:So how do you define happiness or what is happiness?
The Esteemed Yugi says money buys happiness. 
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Mitwah posted:So how do you define happiness or what is happiness?
point is money cannot buy happiness...although it can help
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Riff posted:Mitwah posted:So how do you define happiness or what is happiness?
point is money cannot buy happiness...although it can help
Money and greed. The source of all evils. You only need so much money to live on. Help your fellow brother if you can. This is happiness.
Oh Rass and all this time I thought happiness was Punani):
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Bhai, combine money with spiritual life and charity and anyone can have a happy life.
Money is necessary to live and the more the better. We just cannot become a slave to it and not envy the super rich.
We all left Guyana for a better life.
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Nehru posted:Oh Rass and all this time I thought happiness was Punani
You can't eat hamburger everyday and be happy.
yuji22 posted:Bhai, combine money with spiritual life and charity and anyone can have a happy life.
Money is necessary to live and the more the better. We just cannot become a slave to it and not envy the super rich.
We all left Guyana for a better life.
Oh Brahmana, here is a story of King Alexander. The king wanted to stroll along the river Indus. His soldiers saw a naked sage lying on the sand on the shore of the river. They asked him to move. The sage refused. The soldiers told Alexander that a holy man was on the river banks and is refusing to move away. Alexander wanted to talk to the sage. Alexander asked the sage, âWhat are you doing?â The sage said, âNothing.â Alexander told the sage, âI am the world conqueror Alexander.â The sage replied plainly, âOK.â Alexander became angry that he did not get the recognition that he has been used to and said, âI can kill you with one sweep of my sword.â The sage said, âNo, you canât.â Alexander said, âYes, I can.â The sage said, âYou can kill only my body. You cannot kill me.â Alexander was taken aback. Alexanderâs teacher, Plato, had told him about sages of India. Alexander remembered that and talked to the sage with humility on various ideas of Vedanta. Finally, Alexander wanted to give something to the sage and told him, âI want to give you something. Please ask anything you want.â The sage said, âThanks for your kindness. I donât want anything.â Alexander insisted. Finally the sage said, âI was enjoying the sun. Now you are blocking the sun. Can you please move slightly aside?â This is the condition of the men of wisdom. No fear. No desire. Alexander was very much influenced by the ideas of the sage. He pondered on the fact that his great victories, wealth and fame were not worth anything in the eyes of the sage, and the sage was the most happiest person he had met in his life. He died on his way back. He asked his friends to bury him with hands wide apart and open, with a epitaph on his grave, âHere lies Alexander, the world conqueror. He had to leave this world empty handed.â
We always have the freedom to be happy. Being happy or sad in any situation in life is a choice. If we are wise, we will naturally choose to be happy â na anusocanti panditaah. This is the message of the Gita. Krishna himself is the practical example of the teaching.
It is better to have it and not need it than to need it and not have it.
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Happiness comes when one is contented. Many of us set expectations on others and when those expectations are not realized, we become disappointed and eventually angry.
ksazma posted:Happiness comes when one is contented. Many of us set expectations on others and when those expectations are not realized, we become disappointed and eventually angry.
You hit the nail on the head. You must have been reading the Vedas. It is stated Santosham Param Sukham , Contentment is highest form of Happiness.
Mitwah posted:ksazma posted:Happiness comes when one is contented. Many of us set expectations on others and when those expectations are not realized, we become disappointed and eventually angry.
You hit the nail on the head. You must have been reading the Vedas. It is stated Santosham Param Sukham , Contentment is highest form of Happiness.
YOU CAN ONLY BE CONTENDED IF THE WOMAN WUK YUH UP GOOD AND PRARA
It's discontentment that drove men to achieve great things in this life that others and generation of others are enjoying. Discontentment is a great think like greed.
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Mitwah posted:ksazma posted:Happiness comes when one is contented. Many of us set expectations on others and when those expectations are not realized, we become disappointed and eventually angry.
You hit the nail on the head. You must have been reading the Vedas. It is stated Santosham Param Sukham , Contentment is highest form of Happiness.
Mitwah, you missed the most important aspect of Vedic Dharma. Study the role of the four Ashrams and we can have a serious chat at the religious forum if you so desire.
One of a Grishastha's main function is to accumulate wealth in preparation of entering another Ashramas. Study that aspect of Vedic life and you will understand.
In fact, you should be living a Sannyasi life at your age, are you ?
yuji22 posted:Mitwah posted:ksazma posted:Happiness comes when one is contented. Many of us set expectations on others and when those expectations are not realized, we become disappointed and eventually angry.
You hit the nail on the head. You must have been reading the Vedas. It is stated Santosham Param Sukham , Contentment is highest form of Happiness.
Mitwah, you missed the most important aspect of Vedic Dharma. Study the role of the four Ashrams and we can have a serious chat at the religious forum if you so desire.
One of a Grishastha's main function is to accumulate wealth in preparation of entering another Ashramas. Study that aspect of Vedic life and you will understand.
In fact, you should be living a Sannyasi life at your age, are you ?
Bhai Yugi, aap vyaktigat ho rahee hai. Let's keep it philosophical. Bahut shukria.
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