Have a blessed day at work and with your family .

Take care...things may never be the same, but I'm sure you guys will be well

I have problems buying groceries when my wife is not around. It's challenging when you have 2 kids that that don't eat Guyanese food.

right now, I have to make the bed up, make sure any dirty dishes are washed before leaving home, look after the budgie and parrot before leaving home. (If one of the kids are leaving home late then they will look after the birds), tidy up house before leaving house, get home in the night and still do house work. This damn wifely duties is killing me   and I use to take the wife stuff at home for granted.

that is the biggest problem bro, my kids don't like greens, they into this pasta stuff and the white people food.

Mine are into tacos, burgers, steaks, burritos etc. I don't eat beef or pork so when the wife is gone they follow me to the grocery store, they help to make their meals. 

ha ha ha ha ha

* Now that you back to feeling normal again you may want to consider Stormborn's advice. There are lots of women out there who would love to perform those "wifely duties".

Rev

Rev, It would all depend on what the woman envisions as wifely duties.

* Bhai skelly all married women do"wifely duties".

* And if you show them attention and genuine appreciation---they perform their "wifely duties" with love and devotion.

Rev

What are wifely duties? Keep in mind a modern society where both parties work.

oh, and good morning amral and everyone

* amral stated in another thread that he made the decision early in his marriage that his wife would not work outside the home---she would take care of his home and the children and he would bring home the bacon.

* So "wifely duties" for amral include important functions like cooking, cleaning, making up the bed, doing the dishes, gardening, raising the children, helping them with their homework, ordering the husband around, etc, etc

Rev

Okay, lets talk about working wives. What are their duties?

* Personally I don't like the word "duties"

* Me and my wife talked about "shared responsibilities".

* By the way, now that the 2 boys are off to college---it feels like we are "single" again

Rev

good answer! That's what I was looking for - shared responsibilities

Happy that you are doing good and moving along, true muslim.

NEXT MOVE IS TO FIND A LARKIE AND NIKKAH.

Some men need maid not wife.

* Beautiful minds think alike.

Rev

May Allah be with you and the Kids Bhai. Do take care of yourself and the wonderful children.  Didi in Heaven now and like you said life goes on BUT will NEVER be the same. God Bless you and the Family.

Do not mischaracterize what I say. Specifically, I would not be getting a woman for her cooking skills.

You need to give naughty Maids, Inc a call and have them send over a couple of buxom cleaners to help every day.

Why the rush for a Larkie, Chiefy? 

Best wishes to you, Amral.

That's what I could do with, some Buxom cleaners, I doan care if they clean well, long as this buxom thingy nice.

Amral - keep the faith and god bless.

As they say necessity is the mother of invention, so you will adjust over time.

Amral,

Its good to know you are managing well.

It takes time when these things happen in our lives, don't rush making legal and other  decisions that could wait.

You will know when the time is  right to do what has to be done, including Chief's suggestion. Some people find comfort in the way they are, because a replacement is difficult.  

Emotions are still running high and your rational balloon might be very small.

What is most important is your relationship with your children, because too soon, they might leave on their own.

Doan listen to Cain, he might corrupt you mind.