No woman would respect a man who is just a househusband.

I do share household chores. Nothing wrong with that.

REv, In Guyana we used to call such men Antimen. Laad Ah Mercy Here it comes but I am just the messenger.

I don't believe in this nonsense. America is a different society where both men and women work and it's nice when a man help to cook and clean or wash dishes. I don't feel less of a man when I do household chores.

BTW, Nehru is a excellent cook and he became the master of cook-up-rice.

I just past by Good Hope, Dem Chap ah tear tail deh.  Hag pun the dance floor.

chameli:

Married women rightfully resent lazy, messy, sloppy, thoughtless husbands--they want their husbands to pick up after themselves--not leave their clothes, shoes , underwear, etc thrown around the house or dirty dishes in the sink, etc, etc--women dont want to be treated like slaves by their husbands---and yes many married women appreciate a clean, tidy, thoughtful husband who helps around the home.

BUT THIS IS WHAT THE STUDY IN THE LINK SAYS: 

"Couples in which men participate more in housework typically done by women report having sex less frequently. Similarly, couples in which men participate more in traditionally masculine tasks -- such as yard work, paying bills, and auto maintenance -- report higher sexual frequency."

QUESTION:

Are the findings in that study correct ?

* Do men who participate more in housework typically done by women have sex less frequently whereas men who do the more "manly" stuff have more frequent sex ?

Rev

Abidha:

You are clearly a thoughtful and caring husband and I am sure your wife is extremely proud of you.

But this is what the study in the link says:

"Couples in which men participate more in housework typically done by women report having sex less frequently. Similarly, couples in which men participate more in traditionally masculine tasks -- such as yard work, paying bills, and auto maintenance -- report higher sexual frequency."

THE BIG QUESTION ABIDHA:

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Are the findings in that study hogwash and baloney, or do men who participate more in housework typically done by women have sex less frequently ?

By the way, if this subject is too racy for this forum--the moderator is free to lock the thread---lots of folks are offended and intimidated by mature subjects--like men who help around the house and the consequences of their thoughtfulness.

Rev

I dont do Housework and I want it very frequently, so I would say the study's conclusion is very accurate.

Bossman Amral is a firm believer in men doing macho chores, and women doing housework, cooking and having babies!  He never helps wifey!       

Observer:

You are a wicked man. Looks like you are tempting Mr. Amral to lock this very interesting thread.

How about you Observer--do you help with the housework--and what are your thoughts on the findings of that study:

Here it is again:

"Couples in which men participate more in housework typically done by women report having sex less frequently. Similarly, couples in which men participate more in traditionally masculine tasks -- such as yard work, paying bills, and auto maintenance -- report higher sexual frequency."

Rev

Pandit Nehru:

So you do the macho, manly stuff, right ? You pay the bills, shovel the snow, rake the leaves, fix the car, etc, etc and you can attest that the frequency is higher, right ?hahahahahaha

By the way, your friend Abidha might not return to this thread to discuss frequency.

Rev

MAYBE IS THE Lil Punjabi blood I man gat. I want it in the morning, I want it in the Evening, I want it daily.

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MAYBE IS THE Lil Punjabi blood I man gat. I want it in the morning, I want it in the Evening, I want it daily.

HA HA HA HA

Damn! You're like the energizer bunny Nehru.lol

By the way Nehru--that guy above says he envies you--he says his frequency is waaaay down.hahahahaha

Rev

This doesn't sound normal, you better check out the side effects of whatever meds. you're taking.    

I betcha the writer of this article is a male chauvinist!

My husband does not do housework and even if he did I would not see him as a wus.  He does not expect me to do it either, cleaning ladies and handymen need employment like everyone else. And they are very skilled at what they do. 

Lena, can I borrow your maid, handyman and butler?    

 Oh, so you are one of the guys who do all the housework.

I ain't got a maid nor a butler..I said cleaning lady and handyman...

My husband does not do housework 

 

Well alena, your husband is just like nehru--Nehru says he does not do housework--read his comments--he seems to be wildly adventurous.lol

Anyway alena, based on the findings of the study(it was a study not an article), there is a high probability that you and your husband(who does not do housework) enjoy a HIGH FREQUENCY. CONGRATS.

READ AGAIN:

"Couples in which men participate more in housework typically done by women report having sex less frequently. Similarly, couples in which men participate more in traditionally masculine tasks -- such as yard work, paying bills, and auto maintenance -- report higher sexual frequency."

Rev

Rev,

I help out in and around the house a lot and let us say that it pays big dividends.

When I first came to Canada, I was a hardcore Berbcie, Guyana man who did little around the house but when the wife started working and was earning the big bucks in the home, I had to take a back seat and compensated by doing more in and around the home.

But it paid big dividends and to this day I still maintain the bulk of the chores and I do so with a big smile on my face.  

I must say my husband do help out cooking and sweeping the kitchen and grocery .

Well we both work and our shifts are not the same . He is very happy to do for his family . It all come down to how your parents train you at home before you get married , No wife is your maid .

I know some one when his wife die he did not even know how to make a cup of tea for his family . That's why the Guyanese girl  like the Canadian and American Men they do help their wife with every thing . lol Guess the men who do not help do not have sisters.Or they just like to see woman works more lol while they sit .

After living the bachelor life for about ten years you bet your ass I learned everything to do with household chores.

Iman does also put down the toilet seat every time, that in itself pays huge dividends.

Yuji:

That reminds me of my uncle. Years ago when he and his wife came to America--they both worked but he came home an hour earlier---he used to sit and watch TV and wait for his wife to come home and start cooking---he told his mother(my grandmother)---"I dont turn pot spoon."

Well, my grandmother gave his a$$ a stern lecture---she said this is America---both you and your wife work---and you have to help.

Guess what ? The man started cooking---and by the time wifey came home---food was hot and ready---she was a happy woman.

Listen! The Rev believe men and women ought to share the responsibilities---it makes for a healthier marriage.

Now yuji, this thread is not about men helping around the house---they ought to----this thread is about that study in the link in the lead post.

IT IS ABOUT FREQUENCY YUJI---THE STUDY SAYS WHEN MEN DO HOUSEWORK TYPICALLY DONE BY WOMEN---THE FREQUENCY DROPS.

Rev

But Rev,

I noticed that frequency went up when I started doing more around the home. I am considering myself one of the lucky ones. 

 you are very smart .

HA HA HA HA

You are, indeed, blessed yuji.

But seriously, there may be something wrong with that study!

If a man helps with the housework--there is less inner resentment on part of the wife---she is apt to be more loving and affectionate--more in the mood.

You know what yuji ?

The problem may lie with the husbands--it looks like their endorphins(dopamine) stop flowing once they do excess housework---and that may account for the drop in FREQUENCY.

If as the study concludes FREQUENCY drops---then  clearly the fault is with the husbands---the wives are happy and contented and raring to go---they are relaxed, refreshed and in the mood---but it's the husbands who are not energized and excited---it must be the chemicals in cleaning liquids husbands use doing the housework that hinder the flow of the FREQUENCY hormones.hahahahaha

Rev

Yes! Cham to the rescue, tell dem how they lie Cham.

A good woman would make dem hjormones race, never mind da bollocks.

Rev

Once you perform the housework with a smile on your face then it paves the way for better things.. if you know what I mean. It can be a bit stressful with all the chores but you soon forget after it pays off in the end. If you catch my drift.

The study did not sample men like myself otherwise they would have added another dimension to the findings. 

Did the study provide any information on the relationship between frequency and aging ? The reason I ask is that I feel like 18 and look like 25 despite turning 46. Mind you, I exercise on a daily basis and walk for an hour most days. I also ride my bike a lot during the summer months.

I received a very nice compliment from the wife on Valentine's night. 

My neigbour wife paid Iman a nice nice compliment the other night. as she wiped off her chin......she was snacking on some crackers

LOL.