RE: RELATIONSHIPS

If that study is correct--it looks like there are a lot of people who live in a fantasy world out there.

3 In 4 PEOPLE DID NOT HOOK UP WITH THEIR TRUE LOVE ?

So why did they choose to settle with their current spouse ?

Rev

HERE IS THE TRUTH:

In life you don't get what you want, you get what you deserve.

So for those 73% of people who did not end up with their true love.

LISTEN UP!

Take a look at your husband or wife.

YOU ENDED UP WITH WHAT YOU DESERVE.

Now! Stop living in a bloody fantasy world---and start giving 100% ATTENTION to your wife or husband---show love and respect to what you have.

And stop wasting time thinking about what you missed out on.

YOU GOT WHAT YOU DESERVE.

That's how life is---you don't get what you want---you get what you deserve.

Rev

QUESTION:

There is always a question.

So how many of you are in the blessed 25%---the 1 in 4 that is  happy and contented with his or her significant other ?

Congrats in advance.

Rev

DIVORCE RATE IN AMERICA:

* You have 50% of all marriages end in a divorce.

* And you have half of the remaining 50% being unhappy.

DO THE MATH

50%(divorced) + 25%(unhappy but still married) = 75%

The study says 73% of people feel they did not marry their true love.

CONCLUSION:

No wonder the divorce rate is so high---and so many folks who remain married are unhappy.

If you live in a fantasy world----if you believe you deserve better---you will shortchange your current spouse----and your relationship with fizzle rather than sizzle.

Rev

Looks like no one wants to comment on the study. Hope you folks are not in the 73%.

Rev

Well, the study says 73% of people are sulking because they feel they could have had a better deal.

No wonder so many marriages are stuck in neutral or reverse---too many people are living in a fantasy world----fantasizing about what could have been---instead of making the effort to better what they have and deserve---that is their current spouse.

Rev

Life is short, just be happy with the one youre with.

That's very true Sugrim!

But you saw the stats and the study---73% of people say they did not end up with their true love and are just "making do" with their current relationship

The problem is most human beings are not CONTENTED with they they have----they want more.

But God is a good god---god knows what is best for everyone---and everyone gets what he deserves not what he wants---you get the husband or wife you deserve---not the husband or wife you want.

By the way Sugrim---congrats on posting on this thread----folks are avoiding this thread like the plague----hope the good people here are not in the 73%----people hate the truth.

Rev

CHARLIE PRIDE SINGS FOR THE 73%

Let me chime in here. I am one of those who did not end up with my true love. BUT looking back, I will not change my wife for any other woman on earth. In the end, I am very happy with my choice.

BTW, I spin that Charley Pride Vinyl record frequently.

yuji:

Good for you!

By the way yuji, You believe in God, right ? Well, there is an old saying, "always be contented with what you have because God knows what's best for you."

SO YOU ARE OK YUJI---you are blessed with a lovely and loyal first lady---maybe like you---she also missed out on her true love.hahaha

HOPE YOU HAVE A GOOD SENSE OF HUMOR YUJI.

Anyway, from what the Rev read regarding the study:

* 3 in 4 people surveyed say they are“making do” in their relationship because their true love got away

* And 46 percent say they’d leave their spouse or partner to be with their true love.

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3 in 4 people in a relationship are "making do" ?

THE REV DOES NOT BELIEVE THAT BY THE WAY.

Maybe 2 in 4---but not 3 in 4.hahahaha

Anyway, the Rev doesn't believe in REGRETS---people who harbor regrets about not marrying their so-called "true love"----they need to get a pot scrub and cleanse their convoluted minds.

Rev

Rev

You have a very good sense of humour. I was laughing my head off about your comment on how the wife may have missed out on her true love. You are so right about god doing what's best for us. 

We need to learn from the generation before us. They were content with what they had and were always a team during good and bad times. Times have changed a lot.

Dem sheiks have a 100 wives.  They don't have this problem

that is why it good to have  a Sugar Mamma on the side. Helps with any bitterness

TI:

You are right! The Sheiks have multiple wives---but guess what ? Their wives have a life too---albeit a secret one:

=

Show me a husband who cheats and I'll show a wife who returns the favor secretly and with interest.hahahaha

Rev

VERY NICE!

So the Rev has a question for you dear Chami.

We all know the above is what a good marriage is over the years---it's like a sine curve---you have ups and you have downs---peaks and troughs.

QUESTION:

So what is the secret of a good marriage Chami ?

The Rev has an idea---will share it after you share your secret.

Rev

Looks like chami punted or took a pass on the question.

OK! Here it is.

The secret to a good or happy marriage is and will always remain a secret.

Rev

chami:

I am deeply impressed. That was quite a profound answer. I can see why the 2 of you have lasted 30 years and will be together for life.

Just a couple of points.

You mentioned in the end "forgive and move forward."

I like that quality--- forgive.

Most good or happy marriages involve 2 good forgivers.lol

You also mentioned "riding the wave"---I guess when couples ride that wave---they fall in love and fall out of love many times in their marriage.

And so one can say a good or happy marriage requires that you fall in love many times---but always with the same person.lol

Anyway, excellent answer chami.

BOTTOM LINE:

The secret to a good or happy marriage is and will always remain a secret.

Rev

Doing the horizontal bop twice a day is the secret to a good marriage.