GOOD OR GREAT MARRIAGE ?
* 90% probability the marriage is good.
* 10% probability the marriage is great.
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PRACTICE THINKING IN TERMS OS PROBABILITY ?
* Take a Look at all the married people you know.
* Ignore all couples who are in bad marriages.
* For the rest---they all fall into 2 categories.
* They either have GOOD marriages or GREAT Marriages.
* YOU NOW KNOW THE DEFINITION OF A GREAT MARRIAGE.
* If a marriage ain't great then it's good.
* NOW DO THE MATH.
* How many married couples have GREAT MARRIAGES ?
Rev
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IS THIS ABOUT RIGHT ?
Rev
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Originally Posted by shanazb:
you have to shut up some times . And always be nice to the inlaws .
and also let them know how you feels when they are in a good mood . when ever that is lol .
Do let little things pass just be happy with life and your family .
enjoy each other . Do find time for each other .
love is simply beautiful by being what it is .
shanaz:
* You absolutely, positively deserve to be in a great marriage.
* That was a very mature and intelligent post.
* I was quite impressed.
Rev
Originally Posted by Rev:
AND HERE IS THE KEY
* It's that simple!
* NOTHING COMPLICATED.
* Human beings love to complicate things.
Rev
What sex is dirty?
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Mr. Mitwah:
* You have asked a very significant question.
* The answer is not what you think it is.
* The Rev is a tad busy this morning, but rest assured I will seriously address your very important question.
* LATER.
Rev
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Originally Posted by chameli:
i am not too sure what other folks consider "dirty sex"...sex btwn two ppl who care about each other should never be considered to be 'dirty'
maybe it is when a man/ woman leaves his partner at home with the kids and slip the chain lock off looking for a 'piece' at another persons door
maybe they should invite the other person to their door and lets call it kinky sex or dirty sex
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In my opinion, there is a difference between sex and intimacy. Intimacy is that which people experience when they have very strong feelings for each other. While still a sexual act, it does not reach the level of dirty because the neutron generated are more of a loving nature. Nothing can replace that. Not even dirty sex.
But humans are complicated creatures and like things to get complicated at times. The books we read as well as the movies/messages we receive impress on us that there is a very exciting side to our sex lives but to get there we have to make things a bit dirty. Not having an affair per say although affairs are primarily to satisfy that fantasy. The smart couples replaces that activity with simulations of affairs. They go on a trip and pretend to reach each other for the first time and make believe that they are having a one night stand. As strange as that may sound, it fills the void usually created by everyday mundane things that separate us from our animalistic side. And when it is all over, they are able to return to their everyday life which includes that intimate feature free from the inclusion of others who can set them apart.
Necessary? I don't know. Commonly utilized? I believe so.
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Originally Posted by chameli:
Intimacy...now that my friend is what every woman prefers...just the thought of intimacy gives me goose bumps
That is why I used it babe. I know you much better than you think. 
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I can truly assess what amount of pressure to put in my lips touching a woman's neck tenders.
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Originally Posted by chameli:
muaaah
(hope Chief don't see this post 
)
Don't worry about Chief. He has been relegated to basement duties.
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Originally Posted by chameli:
to EACH HIS OWN...IF THAT IS YOUR STYLE, then so be it...who am i to judge
i am just trying to understand what is kinky sex and dirty sex i wonder if both combine can be intimacy
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Originally Posted by warrior:
Originally Posted by chameli:
to EACH HIS OWN...IF THAT IS YOUR STYLE, then so be it...who am i to judge
i am just trying to understand what is kinky sex and dirty sex i wonder if both combine can be intimacy
Sorry fuh yuh bai if at yuh age yuh doan kno.
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Originally Posted by ksazma:
Originally Posted by warrior:
Originally Posted by chameli:
to EACH HIS OWN...IF THAT IS YOUR STYLE, then so be it...who am i to judge
i am just trying to understand what is kinky sex and dirty sex i wonder if both combine can be intimacy
Sorry fuh yuh bai if at yuh age yuh doan kno.
hey its Saturday and i just fooling around too cool to go out side
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Originally Posted by warrior:
Originally Posted by ksazma:
Originally Posted by warrior:
Originally Posted by chameli:
to EACH HIS OWN...IF THAT IS YOUR STYLE, then so be it...who am i to judge
i am just trying to understand what is kinky sex and dirty sex i wonder if both combine can be intimacy
Sorry fuh yuh bai if at yuh age yuh doan kno.
hey its Saturday and i just fooling around too cool to go out side
Then guh do some laundry or something nuh. Strange as it may sound, helping de wife with de laundry is an act of intimacy. Now I can understand why some prefer de dirty sex option.
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I SEE A LOT OF FOLKS ARE PERPLEXED AND MYSTIFIED BY THE "DIRTY SEX" PHRASE BELOW
* The Rev will try to ease your bafflement.
* First of all. "Dirty" is not to be interpreted literally---it's to be interpreted figuratively.
* NOW---the authors said in the book listed above that
* The sex in GOOD MARRIAGES is CLEAN.
* The sex in GREAT MARRIAGES is DIRTY.
* A husband and wife who are totally uninhibited when it comes to sex---they have no hang ups---they are not uptight about sex--they are both open when it comes to expressing their sexual needs, desires, and expectations---they both have strong sexual appetites---the sex between such a couple will be exciting, steamy, sensual, stimulating, animalistic---sex between uninhibited couples is full of PASSION.
* Are you folks now getting the message what DIRTY SEX is all about ? Or does the Rev have to go into greater details ?
* Look! If you bundle all the marriages that are either GOOD or GREAT----90% of those marriages are GOOD---only 10% are GREAT.
* That's the way it is. It is rare for a married couple to have a GREAT MARRIAGE.
* Consider yourself blessed if you are in a good marriage.
Rev
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Originally Posted by chameli:
i am not too sure what other folks consider "dirty sex"...sex btwn two ppl who care about each other should never be considered to be 'dirty'
chami:
* Read the post above---"DIRTY" is used figuratively not literally.
REALITY CHECK:
* When you are with the one you love---when you are in an emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and satisfying relationship---the physical part is merely icing on the cake.
* People in GOOD MARRIAGES will totally agree with that.
* But People in great marriages want a little more than "icing on the cake"----they want the whole cake.hahahahahahaha
Rev
This is worth revisiting. Many of us have been married (hopefully to the same person) now for many many years. I lost my wife (this year marks 10 years) had she still been alive we would have been married now 38 years.
We did have our ups and downs and I had my fair share of dog house treatments. Lol.
But I think our togetherness lasted due to several factors. She never tried to change me or my my habits and I never tried to change her. She knew I was never into religion and that I will have a few drinks now and again. I knew that she was more religious and we both respected that with each other.
We knew that our love for each other was not a teenage romance but it was by pure chance that we got to know each other.
We tolerated each other habits and often will make fun of each other. Yes I have had days where she will barely speak with me, but at the same time she never neglected the home or to have meals for me or the children.
The marriage was perfect in its own way.
I still miss her and still love her, Jan 3rd will be her birthday.
When I grow up I wanna find a nice nice gurl with great humour, good manners, she must know how fo cook..and must have a boat fo go fishin.
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Amral, sorry for your loss. May she rest in peace.
Cainster, hope you grow up soon and find that girl.
@Former Member posted:Amral, sorry for your loss. May she rest in peace.
Cainster, hope you grow up soon and find that girl.
Cainsta like Roti and Salfish wid peppa.
Is there such a thing as a great marriage?
If there is, I don't know that there is a single "key" that makes it so.
Different things work for different folks.
What is working for my 48+ years of marriage may not be be the same things that work for others.
I can honestly say that in our 'senior years' we are even more connected, caring, respectful and loving of each other. We have less disagreements and when we do, they are less 'heated'.
Important.....we still make each other laugh a lot!
Hi VB I got a feeling other than your looks an brains an so on, your cooking got something fo do with it too.
@Amral posted:This is worth revisiting. Many of us have been married (hopefully to the same person) now for many many years. I lost my wife (this year marks 10 years) had she still been alive we would have been married now 38 years.
We did have our ups and downs and I had my fair share of dog house treatments. Lol.
But I think our togetherness lasted due to several factors. She never tried to change me or my my habits and I never tried to change her. She knew I was never into religion and that I will have a few drinks now and again. I knew that she was more religious and we both respected that with each other.
We knew that our love for each other was not a teenage romance but it was by pure chance that we got to know each other.
We tolerated each other habits and often will make fun of each other. Yes I have had days where she will barely speak with me, but at the same time she never neglected the home or to have meals for me or the children.
The marriage was perfect in its own way.
I still miss her and still love her, Jan 3rd will be her birthday.
Wow..I rem whn yr wife died but i cant believe it has been 110 yrs..wow!!
April will b our 40th anniversary
been thru ups n downs..even thought of quitting a few times at the beginning.
the kid camen we worked on making it work
then another kid came n it got better
we have raised 2 successful gal pickney..
it takes work..compromises n humility. Mutual respect
communication is the biggest thing n RESPECT (for each other)
It is a âgive n takeâ thing..always a win-win whn we give a take
like life..it is a 2-way street ..
Hats off to those who have a GREAT marriage..
i would say ti stay together for 40 years..is a GOOD one!
Take the good with the bad !!
It is a journey n not a sprint raceâĶ
til death do us part!!
40 years is indeed excellent, hope you both are still around for the 50th, that will be a big celebration. July marks 10 years also since Chami lost her husband. We were just under 3 months apart
@Amral posted:40 years is indeed excellent, hope you both are still around for the 50th, that will be a big celebration. July marks 10 years also since Chami lost her husband. We were just under 3 months apart
I rem BM..my Maa died shortly after Chamâs hubby )..Aug 17, 2014
well as long as we r alive in 10 yrs, we will celebrate the 50th whn we r both 75 yrs young!
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